Subtle Signs She's Not Interested

Subtle Signs She's Not Interested



You know, I like to read AskMen.com. Sometimes it has good information, but the "Dating and Relationships" section is always good for a laugh. One of their latest articles is by a guy named Oliver Jameson who wrote "The Top 10 Subtle Signs She's Not Interested." I've decided to break it down here using PUA logic.



Enjoy.



Oliver Jameson writes:



In the game of romance, few things are black and white. Subtlety, insinuations and suggestions are at the heart of the chase for lovin'.



You've already memorized the signs that she's flirting, so now it's time for you to hone an acute sense for the signals women send when they're not interested.



So there you are putting the moves on a babe at a bar. She hasn't quite hinted that she thinks you're gay, but you're still not sure if she's game. Read on and find out.



Actually, some guys have based their entire style of pick-up on the girl's thinking they're gay. But I digress...



Number 10: She keeps looking around



When a woman is interested, she puts in the effort by giving you her full attention. If she's aching to end the conversation with you, looking for someone else to chat with, like the bartender, or, say, her drink, chances are she's not into you.



Typical signs you need to memorize more material. Either that, or get a fuckin' personality, you little social robot, you!



Number 9: She's not talkative



Every dating guide will tell you the same thing: women love to talk, so let them. If, however, she limits her answers to "yes" and "no," never bothering to elaborate, you have a flat liner. Ditto if she doesn't ask you questions and shows no interest in what you have to say. Especially telling is her body language. If she crosses her arms and legs, leans away from you, and doesn't play with her hair, you're probably boring her. Now if she taps her foot or fingers impatiently with the rhythmic precision of a ticking clock, get out before she blows (and not in a good way).



The truly determined may do things to offend or turn off guys, like scratch their privates, swear like sailors and generally behave in an unladylike manner.



I'd just like to point out to everyone reading this NOT to take ANY of this seriously as signs of disinterest. First of all, there are lots of women who do not love to talk. Typical Low Self Esteem (LSE) women are quite quiet. Some girls are shy. Some are just dumb. Smart, intelligent, fun girls like to talk. The thing is, when you let a woman talk, you allow her to control the frame, and that's a no-no.



Even though it's a big Indicator of Interest (IOI) when a girl asks you questions, it's not necessary for that to occur. Plenty of girls out there are just happy to have a stimulus and need constant "shiny things" to keep them occupied. But I think the biggest faux pas here is the bit on Body Language.



If a girl's body language is wrong, correct it! I learned this from Swinggcat. If I'm talking to a girl who has her arms crossed, I'll tell her "OMG! You've got crossed arms! Ugh! Why so closed off?" This will make her self-conscious and get her to uncross her arms. The funny thing about correcting body language is that attitude will follow. When the bodly language is corrected, so is how the girl reacts to you. When you get her to uncross her arms, she opens up more and begins to re-engage you. It's a cool little trick.



Regardless, do not take these as a sign to bail! Keep pounding away!



Number 8:She says she's expecting people



In other words, there's little chance she'll be spending any alone time with you. If she emphasizes that these people will be arriving shortly, it's your red card, so gently excuse yourself.



WHA???? What the hell kind of advice is this? You stay in there until these people show up, damn it! Why let her control the frame? This is the typical "Let women rule" mentality that is fucking up America.



Number 7:She says she has to leave



Although she just ordered her second Pink Lady, she's restless and fidgety. She keeps looking at her watch, looks around the room for something or someone, and seems generally uncomfortable where she is, i.e. near you. Should you still have doubts, they should be promptly dispersed as she suddenly leaves, mumbling something about having to be somewhere.



If she leaves, she leaves, no big deal. MAKE her leave. Stay in there until the bitter end. The thing is, if you notice this happening, pace it, and throw in false time constraints. Saying something like "Oh crap, I gotta get going in a few seconds. But before I do..." and make it seem like you're about to leave. The prospect of you leaving will keep her where she is and keep you in set maybe long enough to turn it around.



Number 6: She gets you to dance with her friend



Oftentimes, when a woman is dancing with a girl friend, she's off the market. Still, more indomitable men persist at their own risk. However, if that same woman pushes you into a grind with her much less alluring gal pal, it's the closest act to tossing you away without saying a word. But look on the bright side. You might still get some tonight, if you don't mind second place.



Again, letting the girl dominate the frame. If she pushes you away, persist and come back to dance with her. My real question would be "Why are you on the dance floor in the first place?" I personally think dance floors are bad places of initiate an approach. It's often best to dance with girls who are on the perifery of the dance floor, not quite on it, or to drag a girl you're already gameing on there.



Number 5: She refuses the drink you offer her



Women love the free drink, so if she turns yours down, you can be sure she doesn't want the burden of having to talk to you, especially if you know she was about to order a drink herself. She might even order one herself after that, a very clear sign. But hey, at least you have two drinks now.



Thundercat says: What the FUCK are you doing buying her a drink?!?!?!?!

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