Tracey Cox

Tracey Cox

Be careful: Your body may be saying something you didn't intend



Tracey Cox is the author of Super date, a book about body language and singles.

As soon as you meet Tracey Cox, you know she's one of those women who easily gets dates.



Despite suffering from jet lag and a 5 a.m. rising, the English author of such best-sellers as Superflirt and Supersex still looks fresh and sexy and far younger than her 40-something years.



We all know any number of women like her, yet they have great difficulty getting a date these days. And it's not just women. There's plenty of good-looking, sexy guys who struggle to land a date.



So what's her secret?



It's obvious she's very attractive and exudes self-assurance and confidence served up with a healthy dose of English sassiness, but there has to be more to it than that to survive today's dating desert.



Well, there is. This is a woman who is armed with a secret weapon -- she has extensive knowledge on how to interpret people's body language. These are the often-unconscious signals we give that indicate what we're really thinking.



Such knowledge, says Cox, is an invaluable tool when you're looking for a date as these signals can tell you whether or not someone is truly interested in you.



Never mind if you feel that no matter what you do you can't land a date, Cox says anyone can get one once they know how to interpret other people's body language and, of course, send out the right signals, too.



Add some flirting skills to this package and you too can become, or meet, the ultimate date.



To help people get there, she's added another book to her list of popular how-to books -- Super date, subtitled how to be one, how to get one (DK Publishing).



Chatting while on a quick promotional visit to T.O., she points out that most relationships are formed or dismissed within the first five minutes of meeting.



Whether or not they realize it, people instinctively read other people's body language to decide who they like and who they don't, mainly because initial conversation rarely gives enough depth or information, Cox says.



Yet many people aren't aware that's what they're doing and, even more importantly, aren't aware they may be sending out the wrong signals themselves.



"Get the signals right and you'll clean up at speed-dating," she laughs.



Source: lifewise.canoe.ca